For an expanded background and explanation of the Dating Market Value Quiz (or S. In case your dad or older cousin or playboy uncle hasn’t already broken the news to you, men, in general, peak later in life than women do. Or, if he was, he probably couldn’t relate to your experiences, due to a lack of understanding of American culture, especially if he’s a first-generation immigrant.So be brutally honest as you answer these 40 questions.The more real and honest your answer, the more accurate your score and how you rank in the eyes of women will be.Note 2: This calculator only takes into account your passive value with some lifestyle and social aspects taken into consideration.This is about the value your first impression gives her and NOT the long term relationship or sexual value, although many of the questions you answer are implied and carry over into that form of value.When you complain about how nobody takes you seriously in the workplace and how you have to constantly overcome stereotypes and biases, the only thing he has to say is that you should have become a doctor or engineer instead of trying to make it big in the corporate world.
Due to immigration restrictions, his decision to return to his native country, or for other personal reasons, your dad may not have been a part of your life growing up.Then there were some items where (like body or facial hair) it didn’t matter either way, just that if you had facial hair, it was trimmed and not a scraggly rat’s nest. It’s the Polarizing Effect where you want people to either hate you or love you, but you don’t want them to feel lukewarm towards you. Be sure to white list our email and check your spam so we can review your score, why you got the score that you did, and what you can do about it. I truly believe that this kind of parenting that deliberately makes the child feel like he or she is never good enough suppresses our generation’s true potential: Asian kids are so traumatized by memories of feeling ashamed and worthless that they simply won’t take the kinds of risks that others are willing to in order to progress.Did anyone ever reach greatness by being afraid of failure? The later in life you leave the bubble, the further behind you are compared to other kids when it comes to learning how to function in American society. Dating market value (or sexual market value) is a soft measurement of how women perceive you as a potential dating or sexual partner, especially with respect to your competition (other non-Asian men who don’t have the same kind of negative stereotypes that we do). In the meantime, After teaching over ten thousand Asian men to be successful in the realm of confidence and dating, I’ve been able to see a pattern of traits and behavioral patterns of Asian men (whether you were born overseas or in America) that either increase or decrease their dating market value as a man, especially within the context of either fighting against or unconsciously conforming to emasculating stereotypes, and correspondingly how women react and treat him.Love your parents and forgive them for not being perfect, but realize that this kind of conditioning has been holding you back, and start to undo it for yourself. If you want to open up a tutoring academy or manage a Korean BBQ/Pho/Sushi/Chinese Buffet restaurant for the rest of your life, then you don’t have anything to worry about.But if you grew up in the bubble and want to make it in a professional career field, live anywhere outside of your enclave, or date inter-racially, you have some catching up to do.And while white kids are high-fiving their dads for losing their virginity, you’d probably rather commit seppuku than talk to your dad about sex.Sadly, if you’re a millenial, you won’t find much inspiration in your Gen X counterparts, either, because a lot of them have internalized the idea that Asians have a “place” in society (admittedly times were harder back then) and found themselves in typical Asian professions like accounting, engineering, or medicine.