However, taken to the extreme, this reverse psychology approach (of sticking your head in the sand yet expecting to find a serious relationship) is an oxymoron at best.
Much of what we long for in life in discovering a fulfilling vocation, experiencing God and even meeting our future spouse requires effort on our part as well as reliance on God’s guidance. “Just Follow Your Heart.” Usually, what people mean when they encourage you to “follow your heart” is to not overanalyze the relationship (or the person), but to follow your feelings, wants and desires instead. Feelings like physical attraction, happiness and even infatuation will occur, and they should be enjoyed while they last.
If she leaves, then you’ve lost a strong woman who now thinks you’re a dick.
Some of it is good—perhaps helping you know how to respect the person you’re dating or saving you from unnecessary heartache.
If your buddy really wants to help you keep a worthy woman, he should be telling you to stay open for an opportunity to lay all your cards on the table.
It’s no fun dating an insecure woman and a quick way to make a woman insecure is by checking out, flirting with, or bragging about other women.
But some of this unsolicited counsel about dating and finding a spouse is misguided.
Sadly, much of the horrible dating advice we receive today is also peddled by our well-intentioned family members or close friends.