“Despite being part of the very well-known acronym LGBT, the B is very frequently forgotten,” said Holly Brockwell, the editor of women’s tech publication .“They know they’ll get in trouble if they don’t cater for gay people (as e Harmony found), but since they’re acting out of fear of reprisal and not out of a genuine desire to be inclusive, they don’t think of anyone else.” Brockwell is far from the only bisexual person to feel overlooked.
This is partly due to the fact that as these men tried to understand their sexuality, they also questioned the most negative aspects of masculine character traits: including aggression.“Some bi men and their partners felt they no longer belonged and were discriminated against by gay men and lesbians.Some women who had been loved by gay men were now hearing comments like, ‘You’d better lock your boyfriends away, the female predator is here’,” says Dr Pallotta-Chiarolli. Is the bedroom a sacred space or can others come into bed with us? Are we going to do gendered monogamy - meaning the man could only date other men and the woman other women? “He did, however, go overseas and brought his male partner back. My husband is displacing his anger and taking it out me.He threatened her not to say anything to their religious and ethnic community, and she basically became their housekeeper and for the mother of his children.” Women who found themselves in these situations were conflicted on two levels, the researchers found. But then the second level is: I can understand why he has mental health issues because he also has experienced incredible pain and suffering for his same-sex attractions.” The lack of diverse sex education, which includes LGBT stories, is partly to blame for these issues between women and bisexual men and why this pairing is poorly understood, says Dr Pallotta-Chiarolli.Research has found that men who are bisexual - and feel comfortable being out - are better in bed - and the relationship develops - more caring long-term partners and fathers.Some women who took part in an Australian study even said they would never be able to go back to dating straight men at all.Dr Pallotta-Chiarolli and her co-author Sara Lubowitz hope that their research will help people reconsider what they think they know about bisexuality, and approaching their own relationships with more openness regardless of their sexual orientation. “You go in and design the relationship for yourselves. Even though the majority of dating apps have diversified to accommodate gay or lesbian users, people who are attracted to both genders are still forcibly missing out.Other women would say, ‘Do what you want, as long as you stay who you are with me. You've fallen in love with this other guy now, and I think you deserve to go live with him for a while.I just don’t want to hear about it.’ “Another older feminist independent woman said to her partner, ‘You’ve been so awesome to me. Just come and visit me periodically.’” And even among men who were out and active members of the LGBT community, misogyny lingered.