Maybe the chemistry will be there in person.”For all her efforts online, there has been a zero compatibility outcome. Most of the guys wanted her photo before going further. ” (“Yes” was the only answer that could be read between the lines), the question has hung over Vancouver’s dating scene like a pall.For a lark one night, she posted a personal ad on Craigslist. Once they saw it, their pictures started coming in. Even before the article ran, women were, well, bitching.We once overheard a comment from a stranger saying “where do I get myself a hot Asian girl?” but he was obviously from a very different generation.I felt like I was sort of “upgrading” in a way by moving away from my heritage. Adam and I have been dating for over a year, and I’ve learned that we are very much alike.
So, why is it so hard to meet someone in Vancouver? Is it part of the city’s identity that the dating scene is as tricky to negotiate as its landscape, divided by waterways and forbidding mountains?
The conversation about the impossibility of finding man-love in Lotus Land ricochets between raucous laughter and thoughtful reflection until the table goes silent and the subject finally sinks, like a stone thrown in an impossibly dark wishing well.“This is not a lighthearted issue,” says Jodi Derkson.
“There is a serious problem here.”PHOTOS: MORE SINGLES LOOKING FOR LOVEThis is Vancouver, the women explain, in conversational shorthand that speaks volumes about the city’s widely-perceived shortcomings for straight daters.
I’m proud to be Asian, and I’m working on learning Cantonese and Vietnamese (at least the basics).
Dating Adam doesn’t “upgrade” me in any way – we’re both equals.