He loves sports, travel, and music, but his passion is writing for God and lifting high the name of Jesus through his writing.When Christian men and women are considering transitioning a relationship with the opposite sex from friendship to exclusively dating, they should take a step back and truly consider if they should indeed move forward.If you meet someone who you want to do life with or that God is laying on your heart to pursue romantically, then you will still be fine.Either way, the quality of your life is what you make it.However, we don't want to move forward with a mystical, fairytale or unrealistic expectation, which may cause frustration for both individuals.I have composed two lists of questions below (one for men and one for women), based on some of the conversations I have had with both dating couples and single people.It will benefit all of your relationships, ministry, career, and potential marriage.If you want a healthy spouse, you need to be a healthy person right now.
If you want to get to know someone, be bold about it. Unless you have been given the gift of celibacy (which is probably not the case, since you decided to read an article about dating), marriage is for you.Although it is not crucial to be good friends before you start dating, the better you know someone the, well, better. Although “to have fun” is not the purpose of dating, dating should be fun. Marriage will be one of the hardest things you do, so set a joyful precedent.There will be differences, but they do not have to break the relationship. I mentioned it before, but it’s worth repeating: always pursue health.For instance, some people fall in love immediately and they have a smooth dating experience.For other people, although God may be leading them, the feelings for each other take time to develop.I do not intend to defend a certain set of rules, or refute any.Neither will I pretend like I have the best advice, since I am not even married. In this article I am going to call it “dating” and define it as “the process of finding a spouse.” I do not claim to be an expert: I realize that many varying opinions about dating float around Christian circles jumping over each other, getting mixed together, and consuming some people. You wish it could happen soon but it completely freaks you out. Some people call this dating, other people call it courting — there are likely countless terms you could use for the process.Avoid doing anything you will regret once you are married. In other words, do not focus on how you are being perceived, but instead focus on how you are making other people feel. Not only do they know more about life, dating, and men and women; but they know you pretty good, too.One question you could ask yourself is “If I were married, would I mind my spouse knowing ‘that’ about me? Whether it is when, who, or how, honor what they think.