Then comes the email saying, "I can't go through with this.
I'm sorry, I'm dishonest, I'm married." "You have to be very careful," Falzone tells Web MD.
"You're looking for a connection, someone you're physically attracted to -- who's physically attracted to you -- plus someone who doesn't make you feel bored from the get-go," Schwartz tells Web MD. "But don't let the love bug mesmerize you," says Paul Falzone, author of the book, Find the Right One and CEO of "The Right One"and "Together," two nationwide dating services.
Falzone tells a story of a North Carolina woman who fell "totally in love" with a Massachusetts man she met online. Eventually, he encouraged her to sell her house, pack everything into a truck, and prepare herself and her two young children for a new life.
"The guy or girl could get mugged, raped, shot, there's a bunch of potential dangers for going online. That's exactly what happened in Wyoming, MI last week when a couple and their unborn child were murdered during a Craigslist transaction.
Trouble is, how do you know who's behind the app?Instead, Slocum and her boyfriend, 25-year-old Charlie Oppenneer, were found dead.Alleged killer Oestrike was found with a self-inflicted gunshot wound. The Saginaw Township Police Department said internet crimes have increased, making its job much more difficult.Talk on the phone first, then arrange a brief meeting in a public place -- for coffee, lunch, or maybe a drink. Let someone know where you're going, who you'll be meeting. But I've never met anyone totally different than they present themselves." But if someone lies about his or her weight -- lies to the extreme, that is -- that's what people really get upset about, "It's very unwise for women to substantially stretch their weight. When people get divorced, they forget the good stuff about that relationship, and it undermines their confidence, she says. You have to feel proud of yourself, feel good about yourself, happy to meet people."You don't know what's true and what's not true," Saginaw Township Police Department Lt."Especially when children are involved, you want to make sure you're doing the right thing." In fact, he advises hiring a private investigator when getting involved with someone new. Then after they're snookered, they feel so silly, so embarrassed about what happened." His dating advice: "You can't change the spots on a leopard." A date isn't a therapy session; don't ramble about lost loves or your personal problems too much, Falzone says.At the beginning, your dates don't need to know about your insecurities, your dead-end job, your failed relationships, he says."You can't know a person's intentions over the internet or online, it's just impossible," Pelkki said.Saginaw Valley State University student Keithan Jackson agrees.Dating is the path to love -- and that path, as we know, can be a minefield. "You're going to go through a lot of people, until you find someone where there is some kinetic thing, some magnetism, some desire to know more," says Pepper Schwartz, Ph D, a sociologist at the University of Washington in Seattle. There's serious stuff out there, like HIV and STDs, date rape, online stalkers.