So when The Rules suggest that a woman should never instigate a conversation, or angle herself into the seat beside his, invite him over first, etc., it might seem like a really bad strategy. I’ve been a Rules Girl, and I’ve been the anti-Rules Girl. (It’s possible she only ever planned the dinner just for this reason.) Every Sunday she makes it a point to talk to him, sit near but not too close to him, and repeats the same at family home evening, and Institute during the week.
According to legend, if you follow their thirty rules for courtship and dating, the man you have always dreamed of will ask you out, woo you, treat you like the queen you are, and eventually propose. And Sunday dinners and taking a plate of brownies over to a guy you like is an expected commonplace occurrence?
It also means that you have to give her something particular to do.
Never ask vague questions and give her definite options instead. Although there are no strict rules as to who should do the asking, the Mormons are very conservative and in general, they expect guys to do the asking. You need to do something interesting and keep her faith up.
And then there are the Southern women who just call it common sense. In my mid-singles ward there is a consistent 3:1 ratio. Three beautiful and talented women for every single man. Plain and simple, it can feel like a competition to get the attention of the good guys and get a date.
In my current ward we have about 400 people attending on an average Sunday.