Even when I was in my early 20s, you would never ever go for dinner or do something that was conducive to a good chat.
That’s the culture a lot of our younger members have come out of.” In the noughties, Sex and the City saw four young professional women navigate singledom in the bars, restaurants and movie theatres of Manhattan.
“We have become more excited about interacting with the various technological devices at our disposal than about developing relationships with real people,” reckons author Donna Freitas.
“Instead of engaging in conversation with those sitting next to us, we text, email, and chat with people nowhere near our bodies. promotes the idea that in-person relationships are cumbersome and time consuming — better to be dealt with online, or, even better, not at all.” Even cult dating bible The Rules has just been rewritten for the Facebook Generation.
“Young people have perfected an air of bravado about hookup culture, though a great many of them privately wish for a world of romance and dating.” Raised in the era of the so-called hookup, it’s little wonder that millennials now at an age where they’re starting to think about settling down — have no idea how to go about it.
“Some of our younger clients have never been on a traditional date,” says Rena Maycock of INTRO Matchmaking Agency in Dublin.
The traditional date is very important to what we do, and I think people still want to do that.
“There’s a grey area as to what constitutes a date,” she adds. Older clients generally prefer a more formal dinner date, whereas younger clients prefer to go for a casual drink.
“That’s why we leave it up to the individuals to arrange whatever they’re most comfortable with.” “Online dating is skewing how relationships are being formed,” agrees INTRO’s Rena Maycock.
“So convincing them to go on a formal date with someone can be difficult.
In Ireland, our dating culture has always revolved around drink.