The best move is to be yourself and let them come to know you on their own terms.
In the end, dating a man with kids can be really challenging, but also rewarding.
While it’s difficult to assign arbitrary dates for when it’s okay for a divorced man to begin dating, those who haven’t been divorced at least six months are often still dealing with divorce fallout (e.g.
grief, angry exes, hurting children, financial problems).
The kids are right about one thing, you're not their mom, and you shouldn't try to be—at least not yet.
If you end up , then you can start working out your role in the family.
If you meet a cute divorced guy, be on the lookout for the following Red Flags: , divorce can devastate a man both financially and emotionally.
Many divorced men begin dating long before they’re finished grieving, and you don’t want to be his rebound or wind up with a guy who can’t give you what you need.
While I highly recommend dating divorced men -- dare I admit that I've done so on two continents?
No matter what your boyfriend has told you about his ex wife, you should never repeat it in front of the children, even if he does.
Even if you know this woman was the cause of the divorce, you need to be sensitive to the face that she is the children's mother, and it's never your place to undermine her in this role.
Be particularly cautious if he's already looking for Spouse #2. Periods of adjustment are to be expected, especially if things heat up.
We all need time to heal and don't want to plunge blindly into the rebound relationship. But extreme discomfort, acting out, and outright interference may signal issues just beneath the surface. We would be wise to observe their reactions, heed their reasoned warnings, and consider their hesitation. If you each have children at different stages -- for example, your kids are in elementary school and his are in college -- anticipate some potential problems if you're hoping for a long-term relationship.