And while the gay dating world is fraught with its own problems, the truth is, straight guys could learn a thing or two by observing how things are done ~ ~ (OK, we don't actually say it like that.)Grindr has really changed things for my generation (if you’re unfamiliar, Grindr is basically gay Tinder).
The culture of Grindr is one of directness -- guys state exactly what they want, whether it’s serious dating, a casual fling, or a one-time anonymous hookup.
Conversely, it’s totally fine if you’re not looking for anything too serious -- as long as you let her know from the get-go.
This requires you to do that big dark scary thing where you think about how you feel -- and then articulate those feelings to another human person.
One problem I’ve seen in straight relationships is a lack of clarification of both partners wants and expectations from the outset.
This makes it easier to accept the fact that in the real world, dating is complicated and messy.Also, guaranteed the sex will be better if you get your mind out of your dick and start paying attention to her verbal and physical responses in bed.You’re not God’s gift to women -- and she will teach you a thing or two about being a great lover, if you only let her.That online directness has been translated to the real world.Of course I’m speaking in general terms here, but if a gay guy just wants to fool around with no strings attached, he’ll usually make that clear from the outset. The straight guys who claim to be the biggest casanovas in front of their friends are usually the same guys that women mock or complain about behind their backs. So what dating advice could I possibly give to straight guys? As a gay man, I’ve been in my fair share of boys’ locker rooms and attended my fair share of all-girl slumber parties, so I’ll let you in on a secret: All is not as it seems in the straight dating world.The straight population may want to consider a similar approach to sex: instead of just running through a regular stand-by routine, engage your partner in discussion about likes and dislikes, boundaries and so on.First off, consent is so necessary -- you should always be checking in to make sure that she’s cool with whatever you’re doing sexually.When a woman turns you down, she doesn’t mean “try harder.” She means “get the hell away from me.” It’s not fair or considerate to keep bugging her about it, and why expend all that extra energy when there’s other worthwhile women out there who would be willing to give you a shot?When you are gay, you live with the very conceivable possibility that two of your exes could one day end up dating each other.