If you want to make things work, be sure you can handle the following. Men reach their sexual prime in their twenties due to a spike in testosterone, while women typically reach theirs in their 30s and 40s.Add the fact that younger guys have more stamina, and you just may have a match made in orgasm heaven.“A younger man has more energy and is more willing to try things,” says Lindsay Slosberg, dating expert for the app Let’s Date.In my opinion, the choice to commit starts when those feelings of love begin to lessen.You know, that period in the relationship when you feel like you are starting to take each other for granted, when you don’t have that fervent desire to see each other and when that other person no longer occupies your mind during every single second of every day.“In some cases, a younger guy is developmentally in a different place,” says psychotherapist Robi Ludwig.“He’s not ready for all of the pressures and responsibilities that go along with a committed relationship because his emotional maturity is not fully developed yet.” He’s either scared of love or loves you but feels like marriage means giving up his freedom, she adds—and that means you could be looking at girlfriend status for the long term.
After a couple has been together for three years, they are probably serious enough to know whether or not they want to be together for the long run; yet, the relationship is new enough to end it fairly easily if they don't see it going anywhere.
“Being older, you’re more successful and established, while he’s still climbing the corporate ladder or even getting a career going,” she says.
“This can de-masculinize a man and make him feel like he’s unable to provide for and protect you.”Even worse, women in this situation may end up being a sugar mamma rather than an equal partner.
Celebrity couples with a four-year age gap include actress Gwyneth Paltrow, 40 and Coldplay frontman Chris Martin, 36, who have been married for nine years and have two children.
Paltrow defied convention by choosing a younger man.