Tell the truth about yourself (age, weight, SES, whatever) — you know that whomever you are interested in is going to find out the truth sooner or later.Be up-front and you’ll feel better about your communications.5.Looking for an online dating site that caters to gay singles?Our experts tested all the most popular sites and ranked them below based on number of gay users, safety, success rate and more.Make your self-talk more positive with activities that bolster your confidence. And if you don’t want to be in a relationship after all? We are gay, after all; we have already broken the boundaries of heterocentric social expectations (in plain English: social norms of living like straight people), so if you are more comfortable as a single person, good for you. Follow the basic recommendations for straight Boomers/Seniors: Some of these apply to us, and let’s start with safe sex.In the past few years, the CDC has reported an alarming increase in new HIV infections in gay men over 50 — an age cohort that has survived the initial wave of the health crisis. My theory is that so many of us older guys feel invisible, or just generally bad about ourselves, that we are willing to accept any kind of sexual attention, even if it is unsafe — especially if we have had too much to drink. You know the rules of safe sex by now, and if you don’t, there is another blog on this site that will spell it out.Along with key review factors, this compensation may impact how and where sites appear on the page (including, for example, the order in which they appear).Dating does not include listings for all dating sites.
You are mature; you have wisdom; life experience; and a lot to offer. Make time for the things that enhance your self-care, whatever they may be, and for God’s sake, stop working so hard.He has a full time independent practice in Seattle, Washington which encompasses the LGBT communities and their relationship to mainstream American culture. Haldeman has contributed to the American Psychological Association (APA)'s work on LGBT issues, including the APA Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Clients. Living in the San Francisco area in the Seventies, I enjoyed the Disco Revolution; I marched with Harvey Milk; I sat bedside during the Eighties and Nineties at the deaths of countless patients and friends; and I did my part to rebuild our community in the '00s, and have thankfully lived to tell the tale.If you are reading this, you may be an older gay, lesbian, trans or bisexual person — which in our community could be anyone over 40 — and looking for love.Let me first say that if you are looking for a one-nighter, fair enough: many older queer folk are not interested in a long-term relationship (LTR), or even dating, for a number of reasons.Perhaps you have left or lost a partner, and are not up for the complexities of an LTR.If you are interested in dating, though, and the possibility of finding an LTR — either again, or for the first time — read on.This post is dedicated to Boomers/Seniors looking for relationships, and many of the recommendations that apply to heterosexuals work for us too (see below). Engage with those whose relational goals are similar.2.But for LGBT Boomers/Seniors, there are some unique considerations in the mature quest for love. Stay open: Be flexible in your “requirements." Also, be flexible in your choice of venues.As a psychologist who has worked with LGBT people from all generational cohorts for thirty years, I have some ideas that may help you in your search:1. For instance, do you remember what it was like before computers “back in the day” when we actually met in person?Know what you want, and focus accordingly: These days, because of the Internet, it is much easier to connect with like-minded people in terms of dating. Go to bars; if you don’t like them, or don’t enjoy alcohol-saturated environments, join community groups; volunteer for LGBT causes.Consider where you are in your life, and what you want: is it an LTR? If you live in a rural area where these options are not available, use your computer to connect — or take a deep breath and try and start a club/interest group where you live.3. Regardless of your age or ability status, everyone can find something active that they like to do.