In a weird way, to a guy it can sometimes feel more “real” when they don’t have to say anything.I mean, think of the badass male leading roles in movies and TV shows.They also have gushing pussy-whipped characters that ooze with love and desperation, which communicates the message that weak, undesirable men are the ones that use words to express their interest and love. On the other hand, it’s the movies made for women that feature dialogue-heavy leading men who may be greedy and selfish, but always eventually articulate their feelings for the woman.They exchange witty banter and express themselves through words and action.When we’re in a relationship, it can be easy to get comfortable.
So on a subliminal level, the message is communicated to guys that the badass guy who gets all the chicks is the guy who doesn’t need to say anything.
If it’s really bothering you and you feel that he’s not getting the message, just tell him how you feel.
It can help take the edge of the conversation if you say something like, “I know it sounds silly but…” or “I feel…” How you feel is how you feel and the guy your with wants you to be happy. Thing is, communication can get derailed if he feels like you’re blaming him or telling him that he should be doing something that he’s not.
If he views communicating with you as a skill he can be proud of, he’ll want to do it more with you.
Again, most guys downplay this side of themselves or even are afraid to do it because they don’t want to come off as soft or weak.