In short, no, you’re not being too materialistic if you pass up on THIS man. But you revealed your blind spot when you stick with the illusion that a man must make as much or more money than you do. (The oft-debated pay gap doesn’t take away from that fact) And if we are equal, then we should date equally, no? Men choose women based on how those women make them feel. You may be a little short-sighted if you assume that your partner has to be at least on the “same financial playing field” as you. He doesn’t seem to have a long-term plan, much less a short-term plan. So if I’m a man making 0,000, do I need to find a woman who makes 0,000, also?
Men, young and old, are supposed to be attracted to younger women.He totally freaked out on me and was very passive aggressive – which opened up a whole other can of worms. But my question remains – am I being ridiculous in expecting a partner who is at least on the SAME financial and career playing field as me? It can be freeing to regard a kink like SPH or your thing for tit slapping as a reward—as the only good thing to come out of the shitty zap the culture put on the head of a guy with a small cock or, in your case, a young woman with large breasts.So long as we seek out other consenting adults who respect us and our bodies, we can have our kinks—even those that took root in the manure of negative cultural messaging—and our self-acceptance and self-esteem, too. All the porn I watch is nothing but rough, sloppy blowjobs. Do I just turn some deepthroating porn on and see what happens? Deepthroat Queen There's never really a bad time to tell someone they won the lottery, DQ.My guess is that subconsciously I think it's inauthentic and therefore degrading. I really enjoy and have the best orgasms to vintage gay male porn and trans FTM porn, which seems odd to me because I'm so far removed from the sexual acts that these kind of porn movies portray but I always feel satisfied after getting off to them. I get off to tit slapping videos but it screws with me morally. I have quite large breasts and I feel resentment towards them. There are gay men who watch straight porn, lesbians who watch gay porn, and 18-year-old hetero girls in Australia who watch lesbian porn and vintage gay porn and trans FTM porn.It seems both morally wrong towards the progress I've made towards accepting my body and also to the message being sent about violence towards women. So many people get off watching porn that isn't supposed to be for them—so many people fantasize about, watch, and sometimes do things that aren't supposed to be for them—that we have to view these quote/unquote transgressions as a feature of human sexuality, not a bug. Lesbian porn gets you off, vintage gay porn and trans FTM gets you off, but you feel conflicted after watching lesbian porn because it seems inauthentic.I’ve answered a version of this question before and told a favorite anecdote of mine here. But I wanted to take this because it’s a juicy topic for conversation. However, I worry that she's spent her whole life relying on her looks to gain validation from men, and that my brain-dead, loins-alive attraction is only perpetuating her objectification. There's nothing feminist about slagging off younger women to justify your attraction to older women.You like what you like and you can own that without implying that younger women lack confidence and aren't comfortable in their own skins.