"I think it's harmless, and it's safe, and for people in my age bracket, over 50, I think it's worthwhile." Joanna (not her real name) returned to New Zealand from a stint in London 10 years ago to find not a dating pool, but a dating puddle.
"There, it seemed you'd meet a lot more eligible people in your age group.
"Based on the people I know on Tinder, it is a little less serious, more 'lets hook up and have sex'." IN PRAISE OF TINDER Not so, says Hamish Aitcheson, a Tinder-using 57-year-old father of two.
But the novelty wore off, and she began to feel like she wasn't going to find The One on there.Instead, these people are taking to Tinder, or creating their own websites, looking for love and long-term relationships.New services are popping up that specifically cater to this older market, such as Stitch, an app founded by Australian Andrew Dowling that targets those over 60."I also like the fact you're not seeing everybody that's seeing you.I hate that thing about online dating – notifications that say 'these people are looking at you.' I like that you match if they think the same thing, or if they like you." TYPES TO AVOIDYou quickly learn the types to avoid, says Joanna: men whose photos feature a gun, a motorbike, or their ex-partner.Aitcheson recently started using the app again after a nine-month relationship – with a woman he met on Tinder – came to an end."I think it's a modern way to meet people," he says.So, six months ago, the 46-year-old working mother of one started using Tinder.Joanna prefers the app to websites, for the immediacy it provides, its modern, easy-to-use interface, the absence of long, involved descriptions.They all post photos with pets, on boats, with a drink, disguising their flaws and looking as hot as possible.The stigma once attached to online dating has gone.