They feel some pride that their penis generated this strong reaction. But if we remove as much of the reinforcement, including negative attention, many of these men might view this behavior as ultimately unrewarding.
So, shaming, banning, flaming strategies are unlikely to be successful. It's important that women, and men, understand that this behavior, even when it feels distasteful and rude, is not personal.
One issue is that men just aren't good at hearing, or responding to "No." I'm not excusing that.
But this same dynamic, that men think women are sexually as excited as they are, is getting in the way of men hearing the "No, we DON'T want to see that!
At least, in terms of sending the pictures unrequested.
Both males and females are commonly sending nudes of themselves to people they meet online, but women tend to wait until asked.
It's important to note that within gay male circles, this behavior is very common, and is not viewed as a problem.
In fact, many men are happy to get such pictures, and usually respond in kind. because it offers some confirmation that many men want to receive such pics, and are really hoping their recipient will enjoy it and be turned on.
I wonder if women have as strong a reaction in societies where intersex nudity is common in bathing and beaches?But, this requires for women to have the safety to be honest about their sexual interests.For instance, could women ever say, "Look, I probably WOULD like to see your penis pic, but I'd like to be able to ASK for it..."?Smartphones, texting, email and online dating are the current vehicle for this behavior and sexual dynamic, but let's not pretend that this is a new issue.The underlying sexual processes and dynamics have always been with us.She was surprised that overwhelmingly, men loved it, found her boldness both sexy and fun, and wanted to meet her.So, again, we have evidence that men are sending such pictures because they think others will like them, as much as they do.Many women are genuinely bothered by receiving such pictures and view it as an unwelcome intrusion.Some feminist writers have described this as a form of sexual assault, and a way in which men assert the dominance of their sexuality over that of women.But, for some reason, whether biology, psychology or social suppression of female sexuality, women don't enjoy this the way men do.In a clever twist, one woman started sending men pics of female genitals.