This is done while the officiant sings a niggun (again the melody of Debbie Friedman’s Havdalah blessings – since it marks a time of transition.) In silence all walk to the sink.
______________ washes her hands with soap and water from the tap.
Your wedding ring is a symbol of your love and commitment to your spouse.
For people who have been married a number of years, it often becomes an inseparable part of you.
The best thing to do is follow your intuition in this matter.
One situation in which it is usually inappropriate to keep wearing a wedding ring, even on the right hand, is remarriage.
Officiant: “We gather here to support ___________ in her time of letting go.
Pass your ring on to children or grandchildren when they marry, or offer to have it remade into a new wedding ring for them to use.
” [Widow shares] Officiant: “G-d please be with ___________ in her journey of grief and healing.
Please accompany her in this time of sacred transition and allow us to support __________ on her way.
I significantly adapted verses 3-5 because they focus on evildoers that the psalmist is struggling with; I reworked these lines to focus on the widow’s struggles in a way that would better meet her needs.
Despite my translation choice, I in no way mean to imply that grief and despair is evil, rather it is a healthy means sad.