I feel horrible about myself for these anxieties considering that I'm bi too, and should know better.Anonymous Nervous Girlfriend Seeks Tranquility "Many people who encounter us Bi folk in the wild just project their insecurities onto us with impunity and then blame us for it," said RJ Aguiar, a bisexual activist and content creator whose work has been featured on Buzzfeed, Huff Po, Queerty and other sites.(I've been with men and women in the past; he's never been with a man.) I know it is unfair of me to feel this way and he's never given me any real reason to fear this.We have a very engaged, kinky, and rewarding sex life! This situation is complicated by the near certainty that my boyfriend has some sort of hormonal disorder.He has a very young face for an 18 year old, a feminine figure, and not a lot of body hair.He orgasms but he does not ejaculate; and although he has a sizable penis, his testicles are more like the size of grapes than eggs.
Your boyfriend could be gay (some people who aren't bisexual identify as bi before coming out as gay or lesbian), and/or he could one day realize that he'd be happier with a man (just as you could one day realize that you'd be happier with a woman).Stop worrying about the next six or seven decades of your life—stop worrying about forever—and enjoy this time and this boy and this relationship for however long it lasts.Finally, ANGST, on the off chance your boyfriend hasn't spoken to a doctor about his symptoms—because he's an uninsured/underinsured/unlucky American or because he's been too embarrassed to bring up the size of his balls and quality of ejaculations with his parents and/or doctor—I shared your letter with Dr.John Amory, Professor of Medicine at the University of Washington."An 18-year-old male with testicles the 'size of grapes' indicates an issue with testicular development," said Dr. "The reduced testicular volume, in combination with the other features such as his feminine face and sparse body hair, also suggest an issue with testicular function." It could simply be delayed puberty—some people suddenly grow six inches when they get to college—or it could be something called Klinefelter syndrome.He struggles a lot with feeling abnormal and un-masculine.I try to be as supportive as possible and tell him how attracted to him I am and how he'll get through whatever this is."But maybe because the potential 'pool of applicants' is over twice as big for us Bi folk, we get stuck with twice as much of this irrational fear? But here's what I do know: most Biphobia (and jealousy for that matter) is projected insecurity.Built into the fear that someone will leave you because they 'like x or y better' is the assumption that you yourself aren't good enough." And while feelings of insecurity and jealousy can undermine a relationship, ANGST, they don't have to. "But we can turn these moments into opportunities for open communication and intimacy rather than moments of isolation and shame."Klinefelter syndrome occurs in one out of every 500 males and is associated with small testicular volume and decreased testosterone," said Dr. "This diagnosis is frequently missed because the penis is normal in size and the men are normal in most other ways, although about half of men with Klinefelter syndrome (KS) can have breast enlargement (gynecomastia) that can be seen as feminizing.Bottom line: Small testes at age 18 means it's time for a doctor's visit—probably an endocrinologist or urologist—to take a family history, do an examination, and consider measurement of testosterone and some other hormones.